Vows of Commitment

The great thing about a Humanist ceremony is that you can write your own vows of commitment that reflect your personalities and your aspirations for the future. I will send you lots of examples of vows so you can choose wording that you like, or you can use these as inspiration to write your own.

There are different ways of saying your vows – it’s entirely up to you!

• I could read them and you say “I do” 
• You could repeat them after me, line by line
• You could read them yourselves, or if you’re feeling confident you could memorise them 

If you want to include a traditional handfasting in your ceremony you might like to say your vows at the same time. By doing this you are binding yourselves together through your vows and in token of that bond, the handfasting ‘Ties the Knot’.

You might also choose to read a poem to one another to express your hopes and dreams for your marriage. 

Here's an example:

I cannot promise you a lifetime of sunshine

I cannot promise riches, wealth or gold

I cannot promise you an easy pathway

That leads away from change or growing old

But I can promise all my heart's devotion

A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow

A love that's ever true and ever growing

A hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow.

(Mark Twain)

A Triumph for Equality

The Humanist Society Scotland has actively campaigned in support of the Bill to legalise same-sex marriage in Scotland.

Yesterday was a historic day as legislation to introduce same-sex marriage in Scotland was approved in principle by parliament. The Scottish government's Marriage and Civil Partnership Bill passed the first of three parliamentary hurdles by 98 votes to 15 with five abstentions. 

Follow the links below for more on this landmark event:

http://www.humanism-scotland.org.uk/news/in_the_news/same-sex-marriage-backed-in-principle-by-scottish-parliament/

http://www.humanism-scotland.org.uk/news/in_the_news/a-triumph-for-freedom-and-fairness-in-scotland/ 

Lindsay and Eddie's Wedding at Duddingston Golf Club

Lindsay and Eddie first met at work, and bonded over a mutual love of comic books and Star Trek!  When I first met them we had such a good laugh I knew their wedding was going to be brilliant!

Lindsay was a stunning bride as she made her entrance with her dad Malcolm, accompanied by Eddie's friend Danny playing Pachelbel's Canon on classical guitar.

Lindsay and Eddie 'Tied The Knot' with a tartan ribbon from Lindsay's side of the family and a blue ribbon representing Eddie's Italian heritage. 

Lindsay's mum Pat read a beautiful excerpt from 'Captain Corelli's Mandolin' by Louis de Bernieres.

Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion………..That is just being ‘in love’, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away…… roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom has fallen from your branches you find that you are one tree and not two.

At the end of the ceremony, we all enjoyed singing along to  'All You Need Is Love' by The Beatles, performed by Danny on guitar, Lindsay's brother Calum on ukulele and friends Tam and Kyle singing!

Thank you Lindsay and Eddie for these fantastic photos that perfectly capture your big day!

“Fiona, I just wanted to say thank you for marrying Eddie and I in September! You really made our day and everyone kept saying how lovely and also how intimate the ceremony was. I think everyone really felt a part of our big day and that's what we wanted.”

What's so special about a Humanist wedding?

Click on the video below for a sneak preview of a one-minute trailer for our new film, "What's So Special About A Humanist Wedding", which we'll be premiering at the prestigious Luxury Wedding Show to be held at The Balmoral Hotel in Edinburgh on Sunday 19th January 2014!

  What's so special about a Humanist wedding? from Humanist Society Scotland on Vimeo.

It's also on the HSS facebook page:

https://www.facebook.com/HumanistSocietyScotland 
 

Anna and Shaun's Wedding at The Minto Hotel

The Minto Hotel, a traditional Georgian townhouse in Edinburgh provided the perfect backdrop for Anna and Shaun's wedding. The ceremony took place in the hotel's beautiful private garden with the sound of running water and a string quartet adding to the calm and elegant atmosphere.

Hey you two, I said calm and elegant!

Anna and Shaun told me that soon after they met they went on holiday together to Turkey, and while they were there, after having a couple of drinks one night they decided to get tattoos of each others names. This was something they did not tell their families......until I revealed it at the wedding that is!

Anna’s brother Martin, and Shaun’s brother Darren filled a Quaich with whisky to represent the joining of their two families. By drinking from the same cup, Anna and Shaun symbolised their commitment to share all that the future may bring.

Although by the look on Anna's face perhaps whisky wasn't the best choice of drink!

A marriage makes two fractional lives a whole; It gives two purposeless lives a work and doubles the strength of each to perform it. It gives two questioning natures a reason for living and something to live for. It will give new gladness to the sunshine, a new fragrance to the flowers, a new beauty to the earth and a new mystery to life.

(Mark Twain)

A big thank you to Anna and Shaun for sharing these terrific photos by by Kris at Soul Photography and for this note from Anna: 

"Hi Fiona. What we liked about the ceremony was that it was personal and appropriate to us. It was relaxed and fun. We liked how everyone laughed when the story about us getting the tattoos of each others names came out - as our families didn't know it was quite funny to come out in that way! Also drinking from the Quaich was great. It was nice to do something different and unique. I didn't enjoy the whisky at all but Shaun certainly did! We have had great comments from our friends and family saying how it was the best wedding ceremony they had ever been to. The ceremony really was outstanding thanks to you."

Vikki and Colin's Wedding at Keavil House

Vikki and Colin were married on a lovely August day in the beautifully secluded Keavil House Hotel, Dunfermline.  

Their wedding ceremony was relaxed and fun and suited their personalities to a tee!

And now for the serious bit....

Love this photo of the happy couple with bridesmaid Lisa and best man Michael!

When the one whose hand you’re holding

Is the one who holds your heart,

When the one whose eyes you gaze into

Gives your hopes and dreams their start,

When the one you think of first and last

Is the one who holds you tight,

And the things you plan together

Make the whole world seem just right,

When the one whom you believe in

Puts their faith and trust in you,

You’ve found the one and only love

You’ll share your whole life through. 

Thank you Vikki and Colin for sending these great shots by photographer Tom Russell.

"Fiona, we would like to say thank you for all you did on our big day - it all went perfectly!"

Amanda and David's Wedding at Ghillie Dhu

Amanda and David celebrated their marriage in style at this spectacular venue in Edinburgh’s West End. The beautifully restored auditorium boasts a vaulted ceiling, with chandeliers and candlelight creating a breathtaking atmosphere.

At the beginning of the ceremony, Amanda and David each lit a candle to symbolise their individual lives, and after they exchanged their vows they lit a third candle together to represent their joining in marriage.

Today I marry my friend,

The one I have laughed and cried with,

The one I have learned from and shared with,

The one I have chosen to support, encourage,

And give myself to, through all the days

Given us to share.

Today I marry the one I love.

(Bertrand Russell)

 Amanda and David share a passion for music, and their love of the same type of music was what ultimately brought them together.   

Amanda walked down the aisle to  'Something I Can Never Have' by Vitamin String Quartet. For the signing of the marriage schedule, they chose Samuel Barber's 'Adagio for Strings' and made their exit to 'Lux Aeterna' from the soundtrack to 'Requiem for a Dream'.

At the reception, the band 'Dead Eyes Opened' played three of their own songs plus covers of various songs from the 80's - opening with Billy Idol's 'White Wedding' of course!

Amanda and David, it was a pleasure to be part of your special day, and thank you for sharing these stunning photos by Karol Makula.

"Fiona, thank you again for conducting our ceremony - we got some brilliant feedback. What we liked about the ceremony was the relaxed, less formal nature of it and also because it was highly personal - those who may not have known 'our story' certainly got a better idea of this by the end of our ceremony."